Pushing people away when they start to fall down these rabbit holes often just drives them deeper into them, which can become a real problem. That doesn't mean its wrong to do so though. You have no obligation to try to "save" anyone, or turn them around. I don't always agree with the idea that you should just cut everyone off when they are a problem. You're not going to turn him around if you're not willing/able to discuss the topics you want to turn him around on. So long as it's that case you can at least hope he gets to a point where he gets tired of being perpetually angry at reality and just tires himself out to accept it. I'll be honest if this is revolving around video games then he probably falls under the "I JUST WANNA PLAY VIDEO GAMES WITHOUT ANYBODY TALKING ABOUT ANYTHING EVER GAAAAAAAAAAAAH!" crowd which is comparatively more manageable than outright "Fuck blacks". He might even had just been going with the crowd. It's possible he hated him because of his politics but it's also he hated him because he was tired of hearing about politics period and just wanted a "normal" president. Lots of people hated Trump but it's not always for the reason you might expect. One thing to keep in mind is don't put too much stock in things like "He hated Donald Trump" and whatnot. Just make it known that you don't approve of any of it and if he decides it's worth ruining a relationship over then it is what it is They make it seem like it’s all a zero-sum game: if other’s lives improve, your already shitty life will get worse.īah. They harness that anger and point at others. It’s no secret the alt-right preys on vulnerable young men and boys who are in pain and angry. Your friend is either going to have to reconcile his own pain and realize it’s not happening because other people want to be treated better and listened to. I finally figured out that people don’t just complain to complain, and these issues were being brought up for very real reasons, and if I didn’t fully understand it, I had two options: either listen, or shut up. I don’t know what snapped me out of it, but at a certain point I realized I wasn’t really angry with them, I was angry with myself and my own life. Honestly, my life was shit, and for whatever reason, it angered me to see people getting upset over what I considered non-issues. I almost fell down that rabbit hole (didn’t get far, but I browsed /r/kotakuinaction for instance) years ago, when I was in a really bad place.
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